DREAM MAKERS

     Once when Henry Ford was having lunch with a man, he asked, "who is your best friend?" when the man responded that he wasn't sure, Ford exclaimed, "i will tell you!" He took out a pencil and wrote his answer on the tablecloth: "Your best friend is he who bring out the best that is within you."

     That is what best friends do for each other, they bring out their best. Often their best is brought out by encouragement, but sometimes the best thing they do for their friends is to tell them the truth. I call these kinds of friends the DREAM MAKERS.

     In my life i have met so many dream makers, somebody like Simplicity Ezeh the director and Co-Founder of SOEF and also a photo and video studio consultant, is a great dream maker i have ever met, who never say no to my ideas even if it may not work, he will amend it. Pastor Solomon Uzoamaka is the first dream maker i met during my searching time for success, he told me great things i never know about myself, one of the days he called me and said, Oscar you're like a couk Gun waiting to be touch in the trigger, in 2010 he told me and Simplicity to never quite until we win.  Not everybody is willing to do that, because they don't want to risk the relationship, or they really don't care enough to make the effort.

     Undoubtedly, you already have friends, so you know how to develop friendships. But developing or meeting a dream maker often be different, and i want to suggest a specific way that you should approach dream maker friends. Make it a goal to be a dream maker not just to find a friend. When most people approach friendships, they look for people who will reciprocate their efforts at relationship building, and if they don't sense any kind of mutual effort from the second party, they abandon their efforts of dream making individual and move on to a different thing. If you want to achieve a great success in any walks of life, you need to keep working at being a dream making friend, even with people who don't initially put any effort into being a dream making friend back.

     Zig Ziglar said in his book SECRET OF CLOSING THE SELL If you can dream it, then you can achieve it. You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want. When i started working with Foks Investment LTD i help the organization to achieve many of their want trough me, and today they help me to achieve what i want trough them.

     If you are not willing to become other people dream makes, then, they will not be willing to be your dream maker.
     When i came in contact with Christian Chinwike the founder of Empowerment Church Religious Organization, and the manager at Ngene and Ngene Group Int'l LTD, also a bord member of SOEF when i met Christian i know he is a great dream makes and he has what it takes to take SOEF to another level, so i embrace him. Franklin Benedict the founder of Young Money Crew and an under graduate. Onowu Suniesta the general manager of Neonet System Vintures when i met Suniesta i discovered that where he is now, working unders somebody, is not where he is going to be next five years, i saw entrepreneurship in him. Pastor Sunday Ezeh an understanding friend. I thought of being their dream maker as a motivational speaker and a dream maker hunter, but i discovered that they are accommodating same great potentials and virtues of high moral standards that am in need of, so they became my dream maker and we walk together.

     Richard Exley once said: A true friend is one who hears and understand when you share your deepest feelings. He supports you when you are struggling; he corrects you, gently and with love, when you err; and he forgives you when you fail. A true friend prods you to personal growth, stretches you to your full potential. And most amazing of all, he celebrates your success as if they were his own. I saw this great quality right when i met Treasure C. Oguadimma a true love of life. Princess E. Alaka power of encouragement and understanding in her. Ijeoma Eronini spirit of motivation and relationship.  A friend like these are your dream makes.

     There is an old saying that goes like this, a friend in need is a friend indeed in other word a friend indeed is a dream maker friend who brings out the best that are in you. That entire process begins with communication, communicating with people all around you.

     Most people want to be left alone, they are not in need of any communication with anybody around them, if they do desire to interact with others, it's often to jockey for position or to get others to listen to what they have to say. How rare it is when this kind of people go out of their way make it a point to listen to others or search for a dream maker.

     Ralph Nichols said. "the most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them." Mostly dream makers, i found this particular quality in Simplicity Ezeh the director of SOEF somebody who understands as if you're talking to "God".

     If you become a consistently good listener to your dream makers friends, they will want to spend time with you. They will begin to seek you out. And if they develop a rapport with you, they will probably also begin asking advice from you, you will then becoming their dream maker. "These kind of listening is found in Emmanuel Chukwu a photo and video studio consultant in Owerri, He is a friend who always want to listen, learn and keep growing in knowledge", That is the starting point for influence and rapport with them.

     Frank A. Clark said, "To enjoy a friend, (dream maker)  you need more in common with him than hating the same people," Unfortunately, for many people who meet friend, has no positive thing in mind to gen from them, meeting people is what thy seems to have in common. So what's the solution if you don't seem to share common ground with people you're meeting. Try to discover what you have in common outside of your comfort zone.

     If you sees every body as a dream maker and a potential friend, and look for a connection inside and outside of your zone, you have a great chance of finding  common ground of relationship with the person. And that is where dream making friends are build. I have met many dream makers in my life, people that i will not have time to write their names. watch-out for my next edition on dream making.